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was blog-hopping when i saw this paragraph from my friend's post.

"I Do not say i love you because i do not see future in you. I can live without a man like you so do you without a girlfriend like me.I do not love you as i never tried an effort to be a better gf.

I kept wanting from you but you did not."

i don't mean to comment anything about this friend of mine, but just the things that she've written. and i had my own views to it.

"I LOVE YOU" is 3 important words to a girl, i supposed.

some girls may feel that this can only said with feelings if the guy really loves her, and mean what he said.

committment, time and effort. everything.

but what if they never say this to their boyfriends?

would guys think the same way too?

if there's no love in between, why in the first place would you want to get into a relationship?

does that mean that if one don't see a future in their relationship, they cannot be together, they can't say those 3 words to one another?

in break-ups, either party will claim that she/he is not a good girlfriend/boyfriend.

but to nuture a lasting relationship, shouldn't there be effort put in from both?

what's the point of one person putting his/her hardest effort in, and yet the other party keep assuming that he/she is not, and is never satisfied?

everyone wants a say in the relationship.

it's all about give and take.

if you hope for something from someone, shouldn't one take an intitative to give first?

if you hope the other party to give something more in the relationship, shouldn't you give a hint or at least tell him/her about it?

you can't use assumptions, thinking that "i thought he/she knows."

the truth is, they will never ever know what you're thinking or troubling about.

assumptions will only leads to an increase amount of quarrels.

and one more important thing.

why keep thinking about the negative side of the relationship?

in the past, i used to worry so much about all this, and in the end, all ended so soon.

by thinking of it will just add on to more stress and pressure in life.

i used to wonder how my good friend was able to manage her relationship for long, even though so many unlucky things happen.

yet, they're still as loving as before.

and i realized..

both never ever remember when they quarrel and what they quarrel about.

ya. there's a pros and cons.

but what ever thing in the world does not have?

cons're there for us to consider whether there's a need for risk-taking, not to worry.

"Being happy passes a day, Being unhappy also passes a day. so why not be happy everyday?"

(as quoted from some drama, which i've been watching nowadays. =] )

ps. i'm so free now, i've actually wrote 3 posts in a day. =.=""'